“I’ll love myself when I’m beautiful.”
How many times have I thought that?
So many. Too many. Countless.
“Maybe this works for other people,” I’d think. “Other people who are loveable. Other people who have body love . But not me.”
This is how I felt. For so long.
“I’ll love myself when I’m beautiful.”
I used to look at myself in the mirror and think, “When will I love my body?”
I noticed that I only loved my body when I pushed it, hounded it, pounded it, polished it, and squeezed it into a desirable form.
In my mind’s eye, my body was wrong. So I simply couldn’t love it.
NOT LETTING LOVE IN
Now don’t get me wrong. There were times where I did love my body. And those were times when I thought I looked great!
But even during the good times – times of body acceptance – I still felt separated from it. I never felt like the beautiful person in the mirror was ME.
I would actually SAY – “I can’t believe it.”
I couldn’t believe it was me.
Then, when beauty disappeared, I felt awful about myself. I thought – “Oh, this who I really am.”
I would actually SAY – “I can’t believe it.”
The truth is, I didn’t accept myself as beautiful. The woman in the mirror always felt like someone else. Someone I’d never be. Even though I was physically her at that very moment!
This is when I realized something was deeply wrong.
SOMETHING WRONG ON THE INSIDE
I realized something was wrong with me. But not on the OUTSIDE; on the INSIDE.
Actually, there was nothing wrong with my body. There was something wrong with my psyche.
I realized that I didn’t own my beauty. I didn’t feel my beauty. I didn’t believe
I didn’t own my beauty. I didn’t feel my beauty.
And yet, regardless of what I believed, I knew deep down that beauty was there still. Just under the surface of my belief.
The problem was, beauty was disconnected from my self image.
I decided to do something about it. I started experimenting.
My thinking went like this: If my perception of beauty was internally motivated, I should be able to play with it.
So I started playing dress up with my psyche. I started playing make-believe with my self-image.
First, I made my internal image into a queen. I imagined what my queenly dress would look like, and how I’d walk around my castle. (I may have watched a lot of Reign.)
Next, I imagined myself as a goddess. I dreamed up my flowing cloak of magic, my house on the moon. You know. As one does.
I even started a Pinterest board of my fantasy self icons.
Mostly, I got really inspired by the Jessie J song Queen.
It is pretty fantastic. You should probably listen to it right now.
I love my body. I love my skin. I am a goddess. I am a queen.Jessie J
SENDING LOVE INTO YOUR BODY
What I noticed about all of these methods was this: They helped me love my body more.
So I broke it down. I started experimenting with love.
Specifically, I started
Using my imagination, I sent love deep down: into the core of my being.
I also sent love all over – into my toes. Into my fingers. Into my lips. And my hips. You get the idea.
I sent love into the air around my body. And into my hair.
I sent love into the parts of me that I hated the most. I sent love into parts of me that I ignored.
I sent love deep down: into the core of my being.
I didn’t do this all on one day, but a little bit at a time. Before I looked in the mirror. When I was meditating. When I was waiting in line.
Sending love to myself was hard at first. It felt like doing nothing. Truly. But I got better at it. And soon it began to feel more and more real. Until it became just another part of my everyday self.
I think it works like a muscle. An emotional muscle. Except instead of controlling your body, this one controls your emotional energy. The more you work it, the better you get.
BODY LOVE FEELS GOOD
The key of sending love into my body opened a new world for me.
Now, I feel love.
I feel love for myself.
I feel love for myself no matter what.
I feel love before I look in the mirror. I feel love after I look in the mirror. No matter what creature I see,
And if that
BODY LOVE MAKES YOU MORE BEAUTIFUL
As I was playing around with this love energy, I began to feel fantastic. But something else happened. Something… weird.
I was not simply loving myself and feeling more beautiful.
Loving my body actually made me, physically, more beautiful.
I began to glow. To truly feel good. To radiate a certain kind of energy. I think they call it confidence.
I started carrying my body differently. More openly. I felt
I began executing my personal hygiene routines more gently. I started brushing my hair tips-up, patting my skin dry, and giving myself little hand massages when I washed my hands.
My new feelings about my body actually changed how it treated it. I began to treat myself well. I began to prioritize feeling good, rather than simply avoiding feeling bad.
FINALLY FEELING BEAUTIFUL ON THE INSIDE
Not only that, but the glass wall of self-denial came down.
I finally accepted my beauty!
No longer was the invisible wall there, preventing me from identifying with the beautiful person I was.
I finally felt connected to my beauty.
When I looked in the mirror, I began to immediately notice my naturally wavy hair. I saw how happy my eyes looked! But I forgot to notice the imperfections around my eyes. That used to be all I saw.
I finally accepted my beauty
Now I felt the amazing energy of being a beautiful creature.
Wow this was different! I really hacked something. I broke through.
I was no longer someone who relied on the mirror to feel
For the first time in my life, I felt genuinely wonderfully about my physical being. The love I couldn’t accept before was inside me. I had snuck it in.
TROJAN – HORSE YOUR SELF LOVE
I like to think I trojan-horsed my
All along, I had been attacking my outer image, trying to make it beautiful. But that outer sense of beauty never made it past the guards.
Instead, I snuck my love energy in. I put it in a message, snuck it past the gates, and dropped that message in the center of town. When that message was opened, love flowed everywhere. Love got in.
My inner sense of beauty blossomed.
So here’s how to do it.
HOW TO INCREASE BODY LOVE:
- Send love into your body
- Accept love into your body
- Feel love in your body & hold it there
- Speak lovingly to your body
- Have a positive conversation with yourself about your body
- Touch your body lovingly
- Do your regular hygiene lovingly
- Ask your body to accept love
- Take on the role of your body and say, “I accept this love”
- Tell yourself “I love you”
Look at yourself with your heart. Not your eyes. Feel with your heart. Send love to yourself. Accept love inside yourself.
Send love to yourself
It will be weird. It may be hard. But it is worth it.
Work past every single boundary and barrier that comes up until you can feel love on command. It is worth it. It is freaking awesome.
One great way to get started is a self-love meditation.
HOW DOES THIS “BODY LOVE” WORK?
If you are typically frustrated with your body, it means you’re sending it negative energy. You’re blocking yourself. To unblock yourself – you need to do something different.
Send your body positive energy. It is radical.
Instead of looking in the mirror, hoping for something to love, you love your body first. Then look in the mirror. If you want to.
It works like wearing lenses or glasses. You see things differently with a different filter. And you value things differently.
Love your body first. Then look in the mirror.
When you do this, you are letting love energy flow into your body. It actually does real work. It creates real change in your body.
Love energy can heal you. Love energy can empower you. It can also relax you, center you, and clear you.
What you’re really doing, at a deep level, is aligning your body’s energy with a positive, loving frequency. And this loving frequency will build you a different body as your cells naturally repair. This new body is healthier, more vibrant, and even more beautiful.
Isn’t that worth trying? Isn’t that worth fighting for?
DO IT TO FREE YOUR SOUL
This is what I was wanting all along!
Now if I look in the mirror, instead of looking for something to love, I’m looking at something I do love.
Perhaps this is what you’ve been wanting too? To finally accept yourself. To finally love yourself. To simply be enough.
So I encourage you to try it. Go for it! Send yourself love. Do it in every way that speaks to you.
Do it for your body. Do it for yourself. Do it to free your soul.
My dear – you are enough. You are beautiful right now. And you deserve to know it. You deserve to feel it. You deserve to heal your body with the frequency of love.
Write yourself a love note and go place it in your heart. Then read it again and again.
Send love energy into yourself. Give yourself time. Keep sending the love. Keep accepting the love. And I promise you will bloom.
I believe in you.
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