• Stop Hating People You Don’t Know

    Is there a relationship between hate and wearing a mask? In this post, I talk about the link between hate and masks, inspired by the Rick Berlin song “How Can I Hate People I Don’t Know?” Here’s the fresh philosophy on hate culture:

    “How can I hate people I don’t know?
    Its easy.
    I do it all the time.”

    -Rick Berlin, “How Can I Hate People I Don’t Know?”

    “How can I hate people I don’t know?” asks Rick Berlin in his haunting yet homey song of the same name.

    The piece is a meditation on hate infused with heartfelt hollowness and packed with truth-bombs.

    In the music video, the main character goes about daily life wearing a mask. A bunny mask! We follow the protagonist as they drink coffee, walk about town, and seemingly judge people on the street.

    It got me thinking.

    Is there a relationship between hate and wearing a mask?

    Yes. I think there is.

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    As this post is inspired by the music video and song, “How Can I Hate People I Don’t Know?” I highly encourage you to watch it.

    Check out the song and video below to see the inspiration for yourself! ↓

    Music Video: “How Can I Hate People I Don’t Know?” by Rick Berlin

    Inspiration

    Together the song and video are an emotional combination that present themes of disconnection, masks, hate, otherness, loneliness, impersonality, sadness, pain, and discord. (Or at least that’s what I felt!)

    Although these aren’t positive topics, I found it truly refreshing to experience these human emotions through a raw lens.

    Inspired (or rather, appropriately downtrodden) by this emotional combination, I’m sharing my philosophy on the relationship between hate and the masks we wear.

    Hate

    First, let’s begin with hate.

    We all know how it feels to be hated.

    When we receive hate, we feel sapped of energy, hurt, drained, attacked, and lesser-than. Hate damages us in a way that lowers our energy state. Hate diminishes our existence.

    We know how to hate too.

    We feel hate emotionally. It is a common human emotion.

    It is also a mental phenomenon. We think hateful words – they can overtake our thoughts.

    Hate is experienced physically too. It can manifest in our actions. These actions range from micro-aggressions to discrimination to hate crime.

    Why everybody try to make other people look bad?

    -Rick Berlin, “How Can I Hate People I Don’t Know?”

    All of these aspects of hate (emotional, mental, physical) count as hate. Which is why I argue that hate, at its deepest level, is an energy.

    Hate is an Energy

    Here’s my fresh philosophy on what hate is:

    Hate is an energy.

    Specifically, hate is a negative energy. It is draining in nature.

    We perform hate on a energetic level. We experience the energy of hate within ourselves, then we send it to others.

    The ultimate goal of hate is to stop someone’s existence.

    When you hate someone, you are wishing they weren’t there. You’re trying to remove them from existing in the world as they are.

    When we are hated, we are being told not to exist as we are. Someone else is trying to remove us from existence.

    Whether expressed mentally, emotionally, physically or all three, hate is a negative, draining, harmful energy at its core.

    We Hate Masks Not People

    Now I want to go deeper.

    Because I don’t think we really hate other people. We hate masks.

    Here’s how it works:

    1. We put masks upon others.
    2. We hate the mask.
    3. When we hate, we do it from behind our own mask.
    4. The mask of hate protects us.

    Let me explain:

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    1. Masking Others

    Groups of people with a particular identity are often involved in receiving hate.

    These “groups of people” are our social categories. And these categories are well known to us.

    What all social categories have in common is that they take place in our mind.

    A social category is just that – a CATEGORY.

    A category is a mental structure that identifies a group of things and links it with particular traits.

    So – a social category is a mental structure that identifies a group of people and links it with particular traits.

    Here’s an example of how social category labeling works:

    • Start with the social category “blogger”
    • When someone attaches the category “blogger” to me, they label me as a blogger
    • This means they link the word “blogger” with me, along with all of the other “blogger” traits they know
    • When that person sees me, they see a blogger
    • In their mind, I wear the mask of a blogger

    For a more in-depth look at social categorization, this article has a great in-depth look at the term and a summary of research on the topic!

    We, as perceivers, place masks upon others.

    2. Hating the Mask

    When we hate someone, we don’t really hate them. Instead, we hate the social category we’ve placed them in. We hate the mask.

    For example, do you hate that blogger? Or do you hate bloggers in general? Do you hate that cyclist? Or do you hate cyclists in general? Do you hate that category member? Or do you hate that category in general?

    Hate is something we direct towards individuals who activate social categories in our mind.

    We don’t hate people. We hate masks.

    3. Wearing the Mask of Hate

    The link between hate and masks doesn’t stop there.

    Hate itself is a mask.

    That is, hate is not an authentic emotion. It is a mask for a deeper emotion.

    The idea, stemming from clinical psychology, is that hate is a secondary emotion. It is a shield we put up after experiencing another negative emotion. Such as pain. Such as fear.

    For more, here’s an article describing the idea of anger as a secondary emotion.

    Once someone hurt us. And to prevent them from hurting us again, we got angry. We began hating them.

    Them, and everyone else like them. Everyone in that category.

    Hating people protects us. Or at least our damaged psyche thinks so.

    Thus, hate itself is a mask emotion. It masks what we really feel.

    4. Hating for Protection

    Every time we hate, we put up a shield. That shield protects us from re-experiencing pain, fear and other negative emotions. It does that by preventing us from getting close to the world.

    For example, perhaps a blogger discusses a bad habit you often do. And it hurts you to realize that your behavior is harmful to yourself. So to prevent such painful information from reaching you again, you begin hating that blogger and all bloggers. You use hate to prevent that type of information from reaching you again. You use hate to prevent yourself from having a similar negative experience. In this way you protect yourself.

    Hate is a tool to keep people out. Hate is a tool to keep things “other.”

    But why do we need to keep people out? Why do we need to keep things “other?” To protect ourselves from re-triggering and re-experiencing pain.

    Behind the mask of hate you’ll find pain and fear.

    What’s Behind Our Own Mask?

    So, hate is an emotion of masks.

    For all the reasons discussed above, I think Rick Berlin’s choice of a mask in the visual metaphor for hate was fitting and genius.

    In summary, inspired by the song “How Can I Hate People I Don’t Know?” here are links I’ve found between masks and hate:

    • We put masks on others. These are social categories
    • We put masks on ourselves. These protect us from feeling our own negative emotions
    • We hate the masks we see on others from behind our own mask.
    • Hate’s energy comes from behind the mask of someone who is in distress
    • When we use hate we create more distress, more pain, more fear, more masks, and more hate

    So… How Can I Hate People I Don’t Know?

    To answer Rick Berlin’s question, “How can I hate people I don’t know?” here is what I say:

    We can hate people we don’t know by turning them into something we do know. Something we hate. We know categories. And we hate people in categories. When we apply category labels to strangers, we suddenly know them and can hate them.

    The truth is, however, we still don’t know people, even when we categorize them. We don’t hate the real person. We just hate their mask. The one we put on their face.

    Second, to answer Rick Berlin’s question “Why?” in the song, here is what I say:

    We hate people because we’re protecting ourselves. We’re shielding ourselves from new experiences that might be negative, painful, or scary. Hate is a defensive emotion. It is an energy that seeks to drain the life out of someone else because the life has already been drained out of us. And rather than take back our own energy, or heal ourselves, we choose to suck the energy out of others.

    Enough.

    Time to remove the masks.

    Time to Heal

    Underneath hate is always something else.

    Underneath hate is the real you. The real me. Experiencing a deeper emotion.

    It is time for us to face what is beneath our own mask.

    We may find pain. We may find fear. That is okay. That is normal.

    Allow yourself to a quiet moment to re-experience pain you’ve been avoiding. Let it come up. Then let it go. Release it.

    There is a freedom that comes with facing your own negative emotions.

    Let your own mask come off.

    To learn more about re-experiencing negative memories safely, you might like this Fresh Philosopher video and post!

    It is also time for us as a collective to release the need to label, categorize, mask, and hate others. It is time for us to allow others to be as they are.

    There is a freedom that comes with releasing your unconscious labels.

    Let us remove the masks we’ve placed on others.

    When we do this work, we begin to express our authentic selves again. Without a mask. And that inspires others to do the same.

    Together, we can begin to heal ourselves.

    Together, we can begin to love people we don’t know.

    I believe in you. I love you.

    Sincerely,

    Erienne
    Dr. Erienne Weine

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  • Change Your Life with Meditation

    Do you think meditation is boring? It’s a sign: You’re ready to level up! Here are 6 meditation skills to level up your mind + reality! You’re not a beginner anymore (trust me). Here’s 6 ways to take your meditating to the next level.

    Video: 6 Meditation Skills that will Change Your Life

    Here are the six skills to learn to move from a beginner meditator to an intermediate one! Read the post below or watch the video above.

    1. Get out of the Stress State

    The stress state is a particularly damaging state to remain in. Learn to unravel the stress state while meditating. The idea is to pinpoint stressed feelings first, then calm them and release them. It only takes about 5-10 mins once you get the hang of it. And you’ll feel amazing after. The goal: de-stress whenever you want.

    2. Re-experience Memories in a Safe Space

    Create a safe space in your mind for unwanted re-occurring memories to surface. Let them play until they run out. Know that you’re safe the whole time you re-experience this. Acknowledge the feelings you have. Allow them. Learn from them. Then release them. As opposed to letting your mind run wild and control you, this skills allows you to gain control of your mind.

    3. Do a Future Visualization

    Visualize a positive outcome for your future. Feel the good feelings that come with experiencing the positive outcome. Start with small, regular, simple things that you know you can do. Like washing your hands to drawing a doodle. Then work up to larger dreams like passing a test or giving a wonderful speech. Then wake up and bring that future to life.

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    4. Have a Conversation with Yourself

    In this skills, you let the inner part of yourself speak. This inner pat can be called many things: our inner self, true self, higher self, inner child, superego, super conscious, etc. You likely even have multiple inner selves, which is very normal. So get into meditation and just start asking yourself questions. Listen for your own “inner” answers in a non-judgmental way. Have a conversation. Become more in touch with yourself. Because you’re amazing.

    5. Do a Healing Meditation

    When do we ever heal non-physical aspects of ourselves that have become worn and damaged? Basically never. In meditation you can heal your hurt non-physical self, for example, your Emotional Self and Spiritual Self. While meditating, bathe yourself in healing waters. Feel the waters healing you washing away anything negative you want to release. Or try a healing light meditation, or a color meditation! Bathe your being in your favorite color – why not? You’ll feel amazing after, trust me.

    The sixth way to level up your mediation skills: find your chakras. Image shows locations of chakras going up the spine!
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    6. Find Your Chakras

    Babe, it is time to find all 7 of your energy centers. You want to locate them, open them, and close them to healthy balanced level. Think about it like an adjustable light. You’ll learn about a whole new inner world (of you!) and gain the basic skills needed for working with these powerful chakras.

    So there you are! The six meditation skills I recommend you learn to move from a beginning meditator to an intermediate mediator.

    I highly encourage you to level up your mind and reality by manipulating the crazy amazing mind – brain – conscious system that we have!

    Video: 6 Meditation Skills that will Change Your Life

    What do you think about leveling-up your meditation skills?

    What do you think about leveling up your meditation skills with these six abilities?

    Have you tried any of these? Are you curious about any of these? What would you add? I would love to know!

    –> Hop over to the comment section on this YouTube video and share your thoughts!! I can’t wait to hear from you 🙂

    And for even more room in your consciousness, try the Consciousness Challenge, which I made just for you! Details below. ↓

    Here’s to your success upgrading your #meditationskills

    I am so proud of you!

    Sincerely,
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  • Raise Your Consciousness

    Raising your consciousness raises the quality of your life experience. It levels you up – right now! Why should you raise your consciousness? To feel more alive. To be more alive! First we’ll see what consciousness is. Then, we’ll talk about 3 ways to raise it! Let’s go!

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    WHAT IS CONSCIOUSNESS?

    Consciousness goes by many names! Here are a few:

    • Awareness
    • Your own personal perspective of reality
    • Awakeness
    • Attention
    • Knowingness
    • Focus
    • Energy state
    • Quality of experience
    • Being in the moment
    • Your real true self
    • The underlying nature of reality

    Consciousness is like the piece of paper that our reality is printed on. Usually, we only care about the words. But without the paper – we wouldn’t – and couldn’t – have any words at all. This is what consciousness is like. It is the underlying nature of our reality.

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    WHY RAISE YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS?

    Why should you raise your consciousness? To feel more alive. To be more alive! Your regular sensory abilities will be extended! Your overall life experience will be deeper and larger. You will be able to:

    • Take in more information
    • Experience more of your environment
    • Experience a higher quality of senses
    • Smell more deeply
    • Taste more deeply
    • See more clearly
    • Hear more
    • Feel more of your body
    • Be calmer
    • Feel a wider range of emotions

    3 WAYS TO RAISE YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS:

    Here are 3 tried-and-true methods for up-leveling your conscious state!

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    1. MINDFULNESS

    A great technique for raising your consciousness is Mindfulness!

    In this exercise, you go about your regular business very attentive to each specific thing you are doing.

    A popular method is to light a candle. Pay attention to the flame. Stay focused on the flame. When your mind wanders (and it will!) gently guide it back to the flame. Do this for 5 minutes. This will seriously up-level your consciousness!

    It doesn’t have to be a flame. Any similar thing – of your choice – will do the trick!

    With mindfulness, you are training your consciousness to do what you say. And that is to stay focused on something.

    Being able to choose where your consciousness goes up-levels you. Why? Because the world is constantly bombarding you with things to distract your attention! This pulls your conscious into many small pieces.

    But focusing your energy on one task intentionally allows you to gather a greater amount of consciousness in one place.

    The result? More life! 🙂

    2. BE IN THE NOW

    Being in the Now will majorly up-level your consciousness.

    Here’s how it works:

    We are constantly living in the future or the past, mentally.

    The Now is what we actually have. And the Now is what we are burning up when we are focusing on these other places.

    Right Now is always here. And it is a very powerful place.

    Let’s try it now. Fully enter your life. BE IN THE NOW. Right now. Go!

    ~ You are in the now ~

    Well done. If you are ever missing a part of yourself, look for it in the Now.

    3. MEDITATION

    Mediation is the third tactic for expanding your consciousness. And it is amazing.

    I like to say – Meditation allows you to calm the water bowl of your mind. Here’s the analogy:

    Usually, the waves of our mind are fast and high. In this case, not much can stay in the water bowl. But if we slow down, the waves are lower, and we can fit more into the water bowl (without water splashing out).

    Meditation helps you to calm things down. When things are calmer you can have more water in the bowl. And by water, I mean… consciousness! 🙂

    To get started, I made you a 1-minute meditation.

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    DISCOVER WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!

    I hope these ideas inspire you! But the real inspiration comes from within.

    So I encourage you to go figure out what consciousness-manipulation methods work FOR YOU. That’s right. I’m giving you permission to purposefully move your consciousness!

    I promise some things will come easily + naturally to you. Here are some suggestions:

    • Move your consciousness down over your body
    • Go into nature and expand it out from your body
    • Become conscious of your internal world
    • Go to a beautiful place and become hyper-conscious of it
    • Attend to your emotional world
    • Become conscious of the everyday physical world around you
    • Try a guided meditation

    I am so excited for you!

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    WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT RAISING YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS?

    I am super curious – what do you think? Would you try these techniques? Do you already do these things to raise your consciousness?

    Hop over to this video on YouTube, leave a comment, and let me know! I can’t wait to hear from you 🙂

    Sincerely,
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  • Feel Beautiful with Love Energy

    “I’ll love myself when I’m beautiful.”
    How many times have I thought that?
    So many. Too many. Countless.
    Self love? Sure, I tried it. And I failed catastrophically.
    “Maybe this works for other people,” I’d think. “Other people who are loveable. Other people who have body love . But not me.”
    This is how I felt. For so long.

    “I’ll love myself when I’m beautiful.”

    I used to look at myself in the mirror and think, “When will I love my body?”

    I noticed that I only loved my body when I pushed it, hounded it, pounded it, polished it, and squeezed it into a desirable form.

    In my mind’s eye, my body was wrong. So I simply couldn’t love it.

    Young woman checking her face in the mirror, on the journey to greater body love

    NOT LETTING LOVE IN

    Now don’t get me wrong. There were times where I did love my body. And those were times when I thought I looked great!

    But even during the good times – times of body acceptance – I still felt separated from it. I never felt like the beautiful person in the mirror was ME.

    I would actually SAY – “I can’t believe it.”

    I couldn’t believe it was me.

    Then, when beauty disappeared, I felt awful about myself. I thought – “Oh, this who I really am.”

    I would actually SAY – “I can’t believe it.”

    The truth is, I didn’t accept myself as beautiful. The woman in the mirror always felt like someone else. Someone I’d never be. Even though I was physically her at that very moment!

    This is when I realized something was deeply wrong.

    SOMETHING WRONG ON THE INSIDE

    I realized something was wrong with me. But not on the OUTSIDE; on the INSIDE.

    Actually, there was nothing wrong with my body. There was something wrong with my psyche.

    I realized that I didn’t own my beauty. I didn’t feel my beauty. I didn’t believe it was a trait attached to me.

    I didn’t own my beauty. I didn’t feel my beauty.

    And yet, regardless of what I believed, I knew deep down that beauty was there still. Just under the surface of my belief.

    The problem was, beauty was disconnected from my self image.

    EXPERIMENTING

    I decided to do something about it. I started experimenting.

    My thinking went like this: If my perception of beauty was internally motivated, I should be able to play with it.

    So I started playing dress up with my psyche. I started playing make-believe with my self-image.

    First, I made my internal image into a queen. I imagined what my queenly dress would look like, and how I’d walk around my castle. (I may have watched a lot of Reign.)

    Next, I imagined myself as a goddess. I dreamed up my flowing cloak of magic, my house on the moon. You know. As one does.

    I even started a Pinterest board of my fantasy self icons.

    Mostly, I got really inspired by the Jessie J song Queen.

    It is pretty fantastic. You should probably listen to it right now.

    I love my body. I love my skin. I am a goddess. I am a queen.

    Jessie J

    SENDING LOVE INTO YOUR BODY

    What I noticed about all of these methods was this: They helped me love my body more.

    So I broke it down. I started experimenting with love.

    Specifically, I started sendng love into my body.

    Using my imagination, I sent love deep down: into the core of my being.

    I also sent love all over – into my toes. Into my fingers. Into my lips. And my hips. You get the idea.

    I sent love into the air around my body. And into my hair.

    I sent love into the parts of me that I hated the most. I sent love into parts of me that I ignored.

    I sent love deep down: into the core of my being.

    I didn’t do this all on one day, but a little bit at a time. Before I looked in the mirror. When I was meditating. When I was waiting in line.

    Sending love to myself was hard at first. It felt like doing nothing. Truly. But I got better at it. And soon it began to feel more and more real. Until it became just another part of my everyday self.

    I think it works like a muscle. An emotional muscle. Except instead of controlling your body, this one controls your emotional energy. The more you work it, the better you get.

    BODY LOVE FEELS GOOD

    The key of sending love into my body opened a new world for me.

    Now, I feel love.

    I feel love for myself.

    I feel love for myself no matter what.

    I feel love before I look in the mirror. I feel love after I look in the mirror. No matter what creature I see, I always feel love for her.

    And if that love feeling starts to fade, I have the tool to bring it back. I have the capacity to boost my positive feelings about my body again.

    BODY LOVE MAKES YOU MORE BEAUTIFUL

    As I was playing around with this love energy, I began to feel fantastic. But something else happened. Something… weird.

    I was not simply loving myself and feeling more beautiful.

    Loving my body actually made me, physically, more beautiful.

    I began to glow. To truly feel good. To radiate a certain kind of energy. I think they call it confidence.

    I started carrying my body differently. More openly. I felt a greater ownership of my physical being. Loving my body actually increased my physical vitality.

    I began executing my personal hygiene routines more gently. I started brushing my hair tips-up, patting my skin dry, and giving myself little hand massages when I washed my hands.

    My new feelings about my body actually changed how it treated it. I began to treat myself well. I began to prioritize feeling good, rather than simply avoiding feeling bad.

    FINALLY FEELING BEAUTIFUL ON THE INSIDE

    Not only that, but the glass wall of self-denial came down.

    I finally accepted my beauty!

    No longer was the invisible wall there, preventing me from identifying with the beautiful person I was.

    I finally felt connected to my beauty.

    When I looked in the mirror, I began to immediately notice my naturally wavy hair. I saw how happy my eyes looked! But I forgot to notice the imperfections around my eyes. That used to be all I saw.

    I finally accepted my beauty

    Now I felt the amazing energy of being a beautiful creature.

    Wow this was different! I really hacked something. I broke through.

    I was no longer someone who relied on the mirror to feel beautiful. Now I was someone who felt beautiful just for existing.

    For the first time in my life, I felt genuinely wonderfully about my physical being. The love I couldn’t accept before was inside me. I had snuck it in.

    TROJAN – HORSE YOUR SELF LOVE

    I like to think I trojan-horsed my self love.

    All along, I had been attacking my outer image, trying to make it beautiful. But that outer sense of beauty never made it past the guards.

    Instead, I snuck my love energy in. I put it in a message, snuck it past the gates, and dropped that message in the center of town. When that message was opened, love flowed everywhere. Love got in.

    My inner sense of beauty blossomed.

    So here’s how to do it.

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    HOW TO INCREASE BODY LOVE:

    • Send love into your body
    • Accept love into your body
    • Feel love in your body & hold it there
    • Speak lovingly to your body
    • Have a positive conversation with yourself about your body
    • Touch your body lovingly
    • Do your regular hygiene lovingly
    • Ask your body to accept love
    • Take on the role of your body and say, “I accept this love”
    • Tell yourself “I love you”

    Look at yourself with your heart. Not your eyes. Feel with your heart. Send love to yourself. Accept love inside yourself.

    Send love to yourself

    It will be weird. It may be hard. But it is worth it.

    Work past every single boundary and barrier that comes up until you can feel love on command. It is worth it. It is freaking awesome.

    One great way to get started is a self-love meditation.

    HOW DOES THIS “BODY LOVE” WORK?

    If you are typically frustrated with your body, it means you’re sending it negative energy. You’re blocking yourself. To unblock yourself – you need to do something different.

    Send your body positive energy. It is radical.

    Instead of looking in the mirror, hoping for something to love, you love your body first. Then look in the mirror. If you want to.

    It works like wearing lenses or glasses. You see things differently with a different filter. And you value things differently.

    Love your body first. Then look in the mirror.

    When you do this, you are letting love energy flow into your body. It actually does real work. It creates real change in your body.

    Love energy can heal you. Love energy can empower you. It can also relax you, center you, and clear you.

    What you’re really doing, at a deep level, is aligning your body’s energy with a positive, loving frequency. And this loving frequency will build you a different body as your cells naturally repair. This new body is healthier, more vibrant, and even more beautiful.

    Isn’t that worth trying? Isn’t that worth fighting for?

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    DO IT TO FREE YOUR SOUL

    This is what I was wanting all along!

    Now if I look in the mirror, instead of looking for something to love, I’m looking at something I do love.

    Perhaps this is what you’ve been wanting too? To finally accept yourself. To finally love yourself. To simply be enough.

    So I encourage you to try it. Go for it! Send yourself love. Do it in every way that speaks to you.

    Do it for your body. Do it for yourself. Do it to free your soul.

    My dear – you are enough. You are beautiful right now. And you deserve to know it. You deserve to feel it. You deserve to heal your body with the frequency of love.

    Write yourself a love note and go place it in your heart. Then read it again and again.

    Send love energy into yourself. Give yourself time. Keep sending the love. Keep accepting the love. And I promise you will bloom.

    I believe in you.

    Love,

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  • Adopt a Vegan Mindset

    An unexpected benefit of going plant-based is a vegan mindset. Going vegan takes a lot of mental focus. This focus and choice create a lot mental positives. I describe five benefits in this video!

    Vegan Mindset Benefits

    Here are 5 mental positives that develop naturally as you change your life and shift to a vegan mindset:

    1. Mental strength. Choosing to eat differently from society takes guts! By following your own gut, against the current, you become mentally tougher. You become mentally strong.
    2. A deeper connection to your body. Eating plant-based really brings your cravings, hunger, satisfaction, and thirst into sharper focus. You’ll understand better what you body needs. You’ll gain skill in satisfying its signals. This will lead you to feel much more connected to your own body, which feels fantastic.
    3. Glow. Glowing from the inside-out includes feeling good about yourself in your own mind. When you’re taking excellent care of yourself, for yourself, it brings your self-love to the front of your mind. And it shows!
    4. Self-empowerment. Once you get the hang of living plant-based, you will have seriously leveled up, my friend! You will have powered yourself in a whole new way. And that self-empowerment will extend to every area of your life!
    5. And one more… 😉

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    Above all, remember, the world has so many reasons that you should go vegan. But you know what? Forget all of that. That’s right. Forget it! Don’t do it for them. Do it for you.

    Have you Tried a Vegan Mindset?

    Have you ever tried a vegan mindset? I would love to know!

    Hop over to this video on YouTube + leave me a comment. I can’t wait to hear about your journey! ↓

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  • Don’t Get Played in the Dating Game

    Hey babe – are you a toy? No, you are not.
    Do you exist to be played with? No, you do not.
    Do you deserve to be manipulated? No!

    But… in the dating game… you may be!

    In this video, I talk about how people manipulate each other in today’s dating world.

    I’m revealing the game! How it is played. And – most importantly – how to get out. ↓

    Why is dating called “the game?” Understand the game so you don’t get played.

    You are Not a Toy

    Why is dating called “the game?” Why do we say “don’t hate the player, hate the game?”

    The answer is that dating is not always a game of love. Some people play a very different game. And it is harmful to the person who is getting played. In this video, I call that person “the toy.”

    In the game, the player gets the toy to give of themselves – or their heart – as much as possible. This is often measured sexually, but it can also be emotionally, energetically, or monetarily.

    Once the toy has given a lot of themselves to the player, the player leaves. They end the relationship, disappear, or simply withdraw their time, attention, and affection.

    In this case, the player has won. They have won affection, sex, money, declared feelings, or the toy’s heart. Meanwhile, they have not gone so far. They have not given their heart in return.

    In removing themselves quickly from their target once the game is up, the player proves that they “got” the other person. What do I mean by got? I mean got to take the relationship – and their feelings – past the neutral zone. While this happens, the player themselves stay cool, neutral, free, and unattached.

    By revealing the game and how it is played, my hope is to give you the tools to break down this very damaging system.

    Bye toxic masculinity! Let’s get free.

    #notatoy

    Did you know – You are not a toy?

    What do you think? Does your experience resonate with my description of “the game?” How have you gotten free?

    –> Hop over to the comment section on this YouTube video! + Say what you think! 😉

    Thanks for watching!

    Sincerely,
    Erienne
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  • Energize when Coffee Fails

    Here’s what it feels like when coffee fails me. I’ve been drinking coffee for hours, just to keep my eyes open. I feel like I’m trekking to the ends of the earth. My heart rate is heavy, my mind races, I’m dizzy and weak. Yet I also feel like shooting electricity from my fingertips? And not in a badass evil-emperor kind of way. More like a pathetic zombie-listlessly-searching-for-brains kind of way. (I thought this stuff was supposed to HELP.)

    THIS, my friend, is what happens when coffee fails. When the miracle beverage is no longer “doing its job” of keeping you alert, awake, and kind of manic.

    Why does this happen? Here’s the biological reason.

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    Coffee Doesn’t Give You Energy

    The truth about coffee is that it triggers your body to burn its energy stores. The stimulation we feel from drinking coffee doesn’t actually come from the beans. It comes from us. From our bodies.

    Whaaaat?

    Yep. Coffee isn’t PROVIDING anything. Rather it is a trigger. A signal. A catalyst. Coffee tells your body to go into its reserves and light that stuff on fire! It does this by activating your fight-or-flight reaction, otherwise known as the stress response. One study found increased cortisol levels – which is the stress hormone – appeared in people all day after having their morning caffeine. And for those who hadn’t had caffeine in awhile, the substance boosted their cortisol considerably. Bam!

    Long story short, coffee doesn’t bring any nourishment on its own.

    Ever noticed how satisfying it feels to eat something sugary with your coffee? Or sugary AND fatty? Well, there’s a reason for that. Whether you pour it into your drink or eat it on the side, sugar and cream provide quick energy. That way, the coffee has something to help you burn. Often, this will give you with a big burst of energy.

    But that burst is not going to last forever. And once the energy is gone, no amount of caffeine is going to replenish it, because that’s not caffeine’s jam.

    So THIS is why drinking coffee when you’re already tired seems to “do nothing” (and maybe even makes things worse). Because it is lighting you on fire, even when you have nothing to burn.

    So you’re NOT running out of coffee energy. You’re running out of personal energy. Then you become a zombie. Blurg.

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    When Coffee Fails, Actually Your Energy Fails

    In my last year of writing my dissertation, I pushed myself over the edge. To a place where not even coffee could help me.

    I felt obligated to spend every moment of my waking hours working on my PhD defense. Yet I knew it wouldn’t be enough.

    I needed to be on point. At all times. I needed to be awake and INTELLIGENT. Not just barely able to prop myself up at meetings. My most intelligent self! [Insert expletive here]

    To Sumarize:

    • No time could be wasted.
    • Coffee ran out of energy boosting power and left me weak.

    I started to panic.

    Geez, was I desperate. I was willing to try anything. And that’s when I figured something out. How to keep my brain in “I woke up like this” mode all day long. How to not need coffee at all. And I’m actually going to tell you what it is right now 🙂

    The Solution: Replenish your Natural Energy (8 Ways)

    Alright, so you’re going to be shocked (I’m sure). But my actual solution for when coffee fails to uplift you is to replenish your energy like nature intended – naturally! Or rather not deplete it doing stupid things. Here are my 8 favorite ways:

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    1. Eat Some Super-Healthy Food

    Eat very healthy, raw, nutrient-dense food. This gives you real, pure energy that will burn for awhile, leave you feeling refreshed. Some favorites:
    • Almonds
    • Broccoli
    • Strawberries
    • Banana
    • Avocado
    • Chia Seeds *

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    2. Do a Five-Minute Workout

    This gets your nervous system bumping AND even helps generate brain tissue growth. Fantastic options:
    • Walk around the block
    • Do sit-ups or an ab workout
    • Yoga poses (think: 1-2 sun salutations)
    • Run in place
    • Dance party to one song!

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    3. Meditate

    Meditating for just 1-5 mins is great for anti-anxiety, it calms your mind, and truly gives your more time and mental energy. I like:
    • Anti-anxiety meditation
    • Deep breathing
    • Grounding meditation
    • Color meditation

    4. Eliminate Distractions

    Things like social media pull your energy away. Here are the top things to stop giving your energy away to:
    • Your phone
    • Other people
    • Media & news
    • Fears of the future
    • Social Media in all its forms

    5. Do Your To-Dos and NOTHING ELSE

    Okay, this one really comes in handy before coffee fails you. (So you don’t get to that point.)

    It is just so nice to hyper-focus because 100% of your available energy is on the tasks at hand (hypothetically). Once something is done and checked once just MOVE ON. Don’t keep re-reading what you did. Just focus on checking things off and that’s it. Believe me, its more powerful than it seems. You’ll get done faster. And won’t need another doubleshot. 

    A nice tall glass of clean water6. Drink TONS of Water

    If coffee fails you, perhaps you don’t need more. Although “basic,” some nice clear cool water may be just the thing for your tired brain! Heres’s some fun ways to get more of the life-giving stuff into your system (so that it can function properly):
    • Infuse your water with lemon, lime, cucumber, or mint
    • Try a sparkling water
    • Chug 8 ounces of water (see my post Mental Health Trick: Keep Dry Skin Happy for my quick-hydrating technique!)
    • Fill a big water bottle and drink it over 1 hour

    7. Stand Up to Work

    I know you’ve heard of the standing desk craze. Well yes, it is more healthy for you. But you know what else? It is also more energizing than sitting in your chair like a lump. Get up on your feet, blast some upbeat tunes, and watch yourself kill that to do list baby!

    8. Have a Quit Time – and Obey It

    To keep you motivated and avoid procrastinating (which also just drains your energy), have an absolute quit time (and not at midnight either). I’m talking a good old end-of-day stop time. With this in place, you won’t be quite so tempted to spend your energy on non-critical tasks and chit-chat. And without those things, you’ll have more energy to spend on what you consciously deem important.

    My Philosophy: Only Coffee-Up When You Have Energy to Spare

    Am I 100% against drinking coffee? Absolutely not.

    Am I 100% against drinking coffee when you’re hungry and dead-tired? Yes. 🙂

    If you need to get things done, taking care of yourself is a WAY better option than drinking coffee. Counter-intuitively, some self-care actually works to boost your energy. Believe me, I finished my PhD using these tricks. Ultimately, I couldn’t do it without my health. ♥

    Much Love,

    Erienne

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