• Stop Multi-Tasking Wrong

    Ever notice multi-tasking makes you feel drained, confused, and exhausted? Often, we multi-task in a way that mismatches our mind’s natural functioning. In this post, I explain 2 ways to multi-task better. Learn how to accomplish your goals with a clear mind!

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    Working Memory

    We do mental work in a space called working memory.

    Working memory uses units called “chunks.”

    Chunks

    A chunk is a piece of information that you deem to be one unit.

    Our working memory has the capacity to hold about 7 chunks (or a few more or less). Actually, the size of our working memory is called:

    The Magical Number Seven, Plus or Minus Two

    So we have 5, 6, 7, 8, or 9 chunks to use at any given time. And that’s it.

    Memorizing Something

    Let’s say you’re trying to memorize an email address that someone just told you. You have your working memory available to hold that information. How will you organize the chunks?

    If the email address is freshphilosopher@gmail.com, you have some options:

    Each letter is a chunk:

    1. F
    2. R
    3. E
    4. S
    5. H
    6. P
    7. H

    Oh! That’s seven. No more room to memorize. Not the best method. What else can you do?

    Use larger units, such as words and symbols:

    • fresh
    • philosopher
    • @
    • gmail
    • .com

    There! The whole email address is memorized with only 5 chunks. That works great!

    You have infinite options. For example:

    • fresh
    • philosopher
    • @gmail.com

    How you chunk information up to you!

    Multi-Tasking with Chunks

    Multi-tasking takes place in working memory. (At least, the mental part does!) That means multi-tasking uses chunks.

    When you do one task, for example task A, you bring up all of the task A chunks into working memory.

    BUT if you’re multi-tasking, you’ll need to drop the chunks for task A and bring up the chunks for task B.

    The problem is, when we’re multi-tasking, we constantly drop chunks and bring up new chunks. Over and over again. We never fully finish using chunks before we drop them.

    This method means we spend a lot of time and mental effort simply moving chunks around, rather than completing work.

    Thus, multi-tasking can be a lot of mental effort with few results.

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    Start Multi-Tasking Right: 2 Methods

    So what to do? Start multi-tasking in a way that matches how your mind naturally works!

    Here are two methods I use and recommend:

    METHOD 1: FULLY TASKING

    Fully tasking is the opposite of multi-tasking. It means bringing up all of the chunks you need, using them at that time, completing your task, then dropping the chunks forever. For example:

    • Read email
    • Decide answer
    • Type answer
    • Hit send

    This has also been popularized as the “Touch It Once” method.

    Read about the Touch It Once method here.

    METHOD 2: MULTI-STACKING

    Multi-stacking means to weave many small tasks together by fully completing a small task from column A before fully completing a small task from column B. Then switching back to A. Like this:

    • Read and answer text 1
    • Water plant 1
    • Read and answer text 2
    • Water plant 2
    • Read and answer text 3
    • Water plant 3
    • Etc.

    Stop Multi-Tasking Wrong

    So there you have it! What multi-tasking is, how it works in the mind, how we often do it wrong, and two ways to do it better!

    For more, check out the YouTube video I made on the topic:

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    What do you think about Multi-Tasking?

    What do you think about my explanation of multi-tasking?

    Would you ever try multi-stacking? I need to know!

    –> Hop over to the comment section on this YouTube video, say hi, and let me know!! I can’t wait to hear from you 🙂

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    Thanks for reading.

    Here’s to your success #multi-stacking

    Sincerely,
    Erienne
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  • 3 Ways to Raise Your Consciousness

    Raising your consciousness raises the quality of your life experience. It levels you up – right now! Why should you raise your consciousness? To feel more alive. To be more alive! First we’ll see what consciousness is. Then, we’ll talk about 3 ways to raise it! Let’s go!

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    WHAT IS CONSCIOUSNESS?

    Consciousness goes by many names! Here are a few:

    • Awareness
    • Your own personal perspective of reality
    • Awakeness
    • Attention
    • Knowingness
    • Focus
    • Energy state
    • Quality of experience
    • Being in the moment
    • Your real true self
    • The underlying nature of reality

    Consciousness is like the piece of paper that our reality is printed on. Usually, we only care about the words. But without the paper – we wouldn’t – and couldn’t – have any words at all. This is what consciousness is like. It is the underlying nature of our reality.

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    WHY RAISE YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS?

    Why should you raise your consciousness? To feel more alive. To be more alive! Your regular sensory abilities will be extended! Your overall life experience will be deeper and larger. You will be able to:

    • Take in more information
    • Experience more of your environment
    • Experience a higher quality of senses
    • Smell more deeply
    • Taste more deeply
    • See more clearly
    • Hear more
    • Feel more of your body
    • Be calmer
    • Feel a wider range of emotions

    3 WAYS TO RAISE YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS:

    Here are 3 tried-and-true methods for up-leveling your conscious state!

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    1. MINDFULNESS

    A great technique for raising your consciousness is Mindfulness!

    In this exercise, you go about your regular business very attentive to each specific thing you are doing.

    A popular method is to light a candle. Pay attention to the flame. Stay focused on the flame. When your mind wanders (and it will!) gently guide it back to the flame. Do this for 5 minutes. This will seriously up-level your consciousness!

    It doesn’t have to be a flame. Any similar thing – of your choice – will do the trick!

    With mindfulness, you are training your consciousness to do what you say. And that is to stay focused on something.

    Being able to choose where your consciousness goes up-levels you. Why? Because the world is constantly bombarding you with things to distract your attention! This pulls your conscious into many small pieces.

    But focusing your energy on one task intentionally allows you to gather a greater amount of consciousness in one place.

    The result? More life! 🙂

    2. BE IN THE NOW

    Being in the Now will majorly up-level your consciousness.

    Here’s how it works:

    We are constantly living in the future or the past, mentally.

    The Now is what we actually have. And the Now is what we are burning up when we are focusing on these other places.

    Right Now is always here. And it is a very powerful place.

    Let’s try it now. Fully enter your life. BE IN THE NOW. Right now. Go!

    ~ You are in the now ~

    Well done. If you are ever missing a part of yourself, look for it in the Now.

    3. MEDITATION

    Mediation is the third tactic for expanding your consciousness. And it is amazing.

    I like to say – Meditation allows you to calm the water bowl of your mind. Here’s the analogy:

    Usually, the waves of our mind are fast and high. In this case, not much can stay in the water bowl. But if we slow down, the waves are lower, and we can fit more into the water bowl (without water splashing out).

    Meditation helps you to calm things down. When things are calmer you can have more water in the bowl. And by water, I mean… consciousness! 🙂

    To get started, I made you a 1-minute meditation.

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    DISCOVER WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!

    I hope these ideas inspire you! But the real inspiration comes from within.

    So I encourage you to go figure out what consciousness-manipulation methods work FOR YOU. That’s right. I’m giving you permission to purposefully move your consciousness!

    I promise some things will come easily + naturally to you. Here are some suggestions:

    • Move your consciousness down over your body
    • Go into nature and expand it out from your body
    • Become conscious of your internal world
    • Go to a beautiful place and become hyper-conscious of it
    • Attend to your emotional world
    • Become conscious of the everyday physical world around you
    • Try a guided meditation

    I am so excited for you!

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    WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT RAISING YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS?

    I am super curious – what do you think? Would you try these techniques? Do you already do these things to raise your consciousness?

    Hop over to this video on YouTube, leave a comment, and let me know! I can’t wait to hear from you 🙂

    Sincerely,
    Erienne
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  • What Happens when You Don’t Follow Your Dreams

    Let me ask you a question: Do you follow your dreams?

    How would it feel if you did?

    What would your dream life look like?

    I’m not talking about a life of vacation. Instead, I’m talking about a life where you follow your dreams! You know, doing what lights you up inside – that’s what I mean! How would it feel?

    What if everything you did – from the time you woke up – to the time you went to asleep – felt in alignment with who you really are?

    I’d like to add a little hope and sparkle to your day. I’m inviting you to follow your DREAMS! Do it even if they don’t seem possible right now. Still…

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    Think about your dream life!

    Why?

    Why on earth should you listen to your dreams? Follow your dreams? Live your dream life?

    Well… here’s the answer!

    What are your dreams?

    If you don’t know, find out.

    Here are great ways to interact with your dream ideas:

    • Write them down
    • Take a walk and think about your dreams
    • Share them with a friend over coffee
    • Post a comment on this video and I’ll seeeee you
    • You can even share them with me. 🙂

    I believe in you.

    And I believe that you deserve to follow your dreams.

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  • Escape the Illusion of Time

    The Time Illusion –

    Let’s talk about daylight savings time. This is the moment we collectively “choose” to treat time differently.

    But do you believe it?

    For me, daylight savings time takes a while to get used to.

    Why?

    I Don’t FEEL Different

    Because I don’t FEEL different. I don’t feel like it is one hour earlier. I feel the same.

    Yet simultaneously – I KNOW that I should feel different. I know that I should accept the new time.

    See.. the thing is… I don’t BELIEVE that time changes. Instead, I believe that I change. I think that daylight savings time happens because I choose to start treating time differently. And so does everybody else.

    In these moments, I realize something. I realize that “time” is just my experience of it. I remember that time is an agreement made between humans to get things done. And I’m accepting that agreement.

    But do I have to?

    Image of woman breaking the chains of the time illusionWhat is Time?

    Just what is time? Is time real? Is time an illusion?

    Even if it is an illusion, so what? What good does it do to crack the illusion of time?

    Well, I have a secret to share with you.

    Time Isn’t Real

    Time isn’t real.

    You are.

    You choose to live inside of time. And you can choose to step out of it!

    In this video, I show you how I break time.

    I explain what time is, share the benefits of living outside of time, and reveal my time-breaking tips and tricks!

    Enjoy

    Thanks for watching!

    So what do YOU think?

    Do you think time is an illusion? Will you try any of these techniques?

    Feel free to post a comment on this video and share your time traveling secrets with me. I’d love to hear how you live. 🙂

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  • When to Be Real

    We all know when somebody around us is being fake. Why can’t they just be real? It usually drives me CRAZY. What about you? Society dictates I should respond to their external personality, even though I KNOW that isn’t the whole story. Blurg 🙂
    On the other hand, we can also tell when someone is “being real.” It means they are being their true self around others. Telling their truth, like it is – and holding nothing back. Sometimes it can be a bit much to handle – like they’re shining too brightly compared to everyone else’s current state.
    I think of “being real” and “being fake” as two polar opposites on a spectrum. At any given time, each one of us falls somewhere on the scale.
    But is it always the RIGHT TIME to be 100% real? Probably not. For example, it may not always be appropriate, or kind, or relevant. Hard as it is for me to admit, putting on a fake persona may be the right way to go (sometimes).
    Or is it?

    Learning to Be Real: A Little Story

    Recently I spoke on a panel. I was very excited and wanted to do my best.During the event, a touchy subject came up – people reporting mental health struggles. I could JUST TELL that the person running the panel wanted us to skip the topic. Because it wasn’t pleasant, and therefore not appropriate. At that moment, I was faced with a choice: Move along or plunge into a sticky subject.KNOWING ME, CAN YOU GUESS WHAT I DID?I took the plunge.I said aloud that YES that is an actual real issue. Not only is it real, but there were real resources on how to deal with it, and I shared those resources with the audience.As soon as I stopped talking, all of my doubt and guilty feelings started to roll in. I started wondering whether that was the right thing to do. Should I have kept my mouth shut? Did I do the wrong thing? Was the whole world going to explode now? At the end of the panel, I found out.Afterward, I chatted with a few people who said “thank you for speaking!” They had learned a lot from me. That felt great to me. And you know what? ABSOLUTELY NO ONE SAID I WAS OUT OF LINE. Or that I had brought up an inappropriate topic. Not even the panel coordinator. In fact, it seemed a completely natural part of the discussion.Sooo… something I thought might lead to planetary explosion had no negative impact at all? Yep. That’s right. In fact, the judgment I felt from the panel coordinator was probably all in my head…. whoa.

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    People resonate with the real you

    Nobody is convinced that everything is perfect. When you are real, and talk about real life as you see it, people resonate with that.I’m not talking about the standard exchange we all know so well: “How are you?” “Fine and you?” “Good!” exchange you have with your grocery clerk. (Would things really be so weird if you said, “I’m craving sweet potatoes tonight, isn’t that funny?” Hmm.. I wonder what they would say back? Why don’t you try it and see how it goes?)But even more, I’m talking about the deeper interactions we have with those around us. My speaking experience really opened my eyes to how positively people respond to honesty. Kind honesty about your own personal experience. And that is pretty powerful. 🙂

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    The right time to be real is…

    All of the time! Around your bffs, at the grocery store, in front of a panel, and in your pajamas. All good, legit times to be real.Give it a try! “Being real” might help you remove the burden of portraying a perfectly fake version of yourself, which is a big burden indeed. And it also creates an example for others of how awesome it is to be yourself. You never know who else is watching, struggling with whether they should be real too.

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    Here is a quick little one-minute meditation.

    Use this to reset your brain to a calm, focused state.

    Now go ahead and close your eyes…

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  • How to Be Confident

    So.. it is time for you to talk. As in, speak. Like a regular person. Amongst a group of your fellow humans! But you can’t! Your confidence has abandoned you.

    Has this ever been you? Because this has been me legitimately 1,000 times.

    Basically, I would turn into a puddle around random groups of people. Although I might have been JUST FINE 5 minutes ago, I get thrust into an unexpected conversation and start freaking out. I wouldn’t even be sure what I was saying! The world swirled around me. So, I blurted something out… then ran away!

    I’d leave wondering, “What on earth did I just say?” (Hmm… I wonder why?)

    From a psychological perspective, here’s what I think is going on, and how to cure it.

    INHIBITION TAKEOVER

    In my opinion, the problem is inhibition overload. Inhibition is a type of activity in your nervous system that tells your body to stop, don’t act, hold back, and wait. It is actually great to have this ability. It allows you do things like NOT walk out in traffic.

    But… Sometimes this system gets a bit too uppity. Perhaps it thinks it is protecting me against unknown threats! But actually, it is “protecting” me from me having any confidence whatsoever. (Great, thanks so much nervous system! I’ll just sit here in fear…)

    THE PROBLEM WITH TOO MUCH INHIBITION

    The real problem with this situation is that I’m awesome!

    I’m actually cool. I have interesting things to say. I have original thoughts and a baller personality. One day I decided that it was totally wrong to keep my awesome self locked up in some overwrought nervous system battle. So, I decided to figure out how to calm this beast down. And I did. 🙂 I found some fixes for all of this INNER WEIRDNESS. And I’m going to share them with you!

    THE KEY: The key boils down to this – override your inhibition.

    How? Use some activation. Action. Movement. Breath. Activity. Even a tiny bit helps! Do small things that send signals to your body that EXTREME INHIBITION IS NOT NECESSARY. It is actually safe to talk (and even have coherent thoughts – amazing!).

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    10 HACKS FOR HIGH CONFIDENCE AROUND OTHERS

    1. BREATHE

    My biggest tip is to breathe DELIBERATELY. If you’re freaking out, take an actual deep breath. Let it out slowly. This always helps me stabilize and climb out of fight-or-flight mode. (And you know I want to flee!)

    If you’re making a long talking point, take normal breaths rather than speaking non-stop. NOBODY NOTICES YOU BREATHING. You might think, “I have to keep talking or people will lose interest!” Actually, people don’t even notice and just breathe with you. You’re creating a natural break point in the information stream for them to process what you just said. And that makes you even more effective at communicating. 🙂

    PSYCHOLOGY JEDI MASTER TRICK: Sometimes people are just trying to “win” a conversation. Ugh. You know – when a conversation seems out of control and you cannot get a word in? Here’s what to do – Start breathing a bit loudly at a slower rate than the conversation. You’ll influence the vibe on a subconscious level. Then when you take your chance to chime in, keep your voice on that more positive, slow vibe. You’ll successfully share what you have to say in a non-competitive way. And may even change the tone of the whole convo from competition to collaboration. Yoda will be proud.

    2. GESTURE

    Unleash the power of your arms and gesture baby! Use your hands and arms to communicate. You can gesture to jump into a conversation or simply add some flavor to what you say. The point is, gestures are natural. And gestures are a real source of linguistic information. We all have gestures that are unique to us. By using them, you’ll help yourself loosen up, convey more of who you really are, and SAY MORE than non-gesturers. What a nice triple-benefit. 🙂


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    3. LISTEN

    As an antidote to overthinking what you’re about to say, how you look, etc. try deep listening. Deep listening is simply when you pay close, careful attention to someone while they’re talking. Really let the meaning sink in that they’re TRYING to convey, rather than their exact words. This is a great way to read people. Is this person trying to say they’re afraid? Confused? Enthusiastic? Angry? Bored? Broke? Amused? Nervous?

    Then follow up with people’s comments by asking them a question that gets them to clarify or expand. This takes the focus off you and helps you actually connect with another person. Imagine a time when someone truly listened to you. How good did that feel? You can do this for someone else. 🙂

    4. MAKE EYE CONTACT

    Make meaningful eye contact with others as you speak and listen. I mean, it is not like you’re talking with your eyes closed! Are you? Or is your gaze doing something else? So carefully remove your eyes from your shoes, the distant background, or anywhere else that might feel comfortable to look (but actually just makes you look distracted). and look into the eyes of the people around you. You’ll automatically feel more confident by doing this. Why? Because it is actually brave.

    EYEBROW HACK: Hahahaha. Okay so I’m laughing because SO MANY TIMES I’ve avoided eye contact because it just FEELS TOO INTIMATE. Like ahhhh. Some people’s eyes are so too pretty, and I get lost! (Now you can see why I’m laughing.) Sooo… Try looking at people’s eyebrows instead. Hey it works! It is less soul-examining than direct eye contact. But it still makes people feel special that you’re paying attention to them. And if they catch you, you can blame me and send them this article (loooooks like you slipped into the DMs of that beautiful person!). 😉

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    5. OCCUPY SPACE

    To increase your confidence, allow yourself to take up space around you a bit more. You know the guy on the train who sits with his arms spread out, taking up 2 extra seats, his backpack in one seat, coat in another, looking like he’s lounging in his living room? CHANNEL THAT GUY. Move around. Put your hands on your hips. Take the conversation for a walk. Just by allowing your body to EXIST in the space it is in you’ll unlock some major confidence.

    6. STAND UP STRAIGHT

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    7. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO CONVEY

    You know when you see a super confident person talking? And you just are so amazed by their self-possession and clarity? Me too! The most confident thing I ever see others do is to have one point, make it, and stand behind it. It makes people just seem so POWERFUL, so self sure, and I feel inspired. So I’ve copied them.

    Figure out just one thing that you want to say and stick to making that point. Hey, its what confident people do!

    The best part? You don’t have to stand by that point forever. Consider the time-honored tradition of debate. The goal is to learn something greater by taking strong stances and exploring them. The re-examining. So give this age-old tradition a try and stand for just one thing, if only for awhile.

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    8. SET A CONVERSATIONAL TONE

    Accept yourself first and others will too. Rather than letting your fears take over, try assuming that everyone is going to understand you. And accept you. Try assuming that everyone will think you’ve made a great point. Assume that when they respond with some random tangent, they’re really saying, “Great point! I’d like to add to that by mentioning..”

    Just adopting this perspective, I suddenly lose so many worries. I no longer worry about being understood, accepted, attacked, or the million other things my inhibition brain comes up with. Instead, I can allow others to make their points. I know I can always come back to mine. By adopting a spirit of collaboration, you gain confidence that comes from within. 🙂 The best kind!

    You might also like my video: 5 Mental Hacks to Stop Caring What People Think!

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    Got something to say? See if you can say it in 8 words or fewer. Boom! This is powerful. As your friendly cognitive scientist, let me tell you that by your 18th rambling sentence, people have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about anymore. Or they 100% get it and they’re just waiting for you to stop talking.

    By having the gumption to say what you mean succinctly, you’ll automatically increase your own confidence in yourself. And from a nervous system standpoint, A few words is just a small thing, compared to a monologue. So blurting out a short thing is a great way to break the inhibition cycle and get comfortable existing around other humans.

    10. USE DOWNSPEAK (AVOID UPSPEAK)

    Ah! This is some high-level ish! Upspeak is the sound you naturally make when asking a question. When you say, “Did you get almond milk?” your voice goes up at the end. Yet we might do this at the end of non-question sentences. Like this: “Yeah, it was on sale?”  But you meant, “Yeah, it was on sale.”

    Upspeak can make us feel unsure. Why? Because the tone, or prosodic information, mismatches the word meaning.

    If you ever catch yourself doing this – just purposely try ending some statements with a lower tone. Or downspeak. They key here is SOME. You don’t have to eliminate all upspeak! Actually, that might be a characteristic of your voice. And that’s a cool, good thing. So if your confidence is wavering, I say throw a few low tones into the ends of your sentences, and see how it feels. 🙂

    GO FORTH AND EXUDE CONFIDENCE!

    You are a very worthwhile human being and have every right to unearth your natural confidence. So allow your awesome self to shine. I’m so proud of you.

    Sincerely,
    Erienne
    Dr. Erienne Weine

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