• Multi-Task Better

    Ever notice multi-tasking makes you feel drained, confused, and exhausted? Often, we multi-task in a way that mismatches our mind’s natural functioning. In this post, I explain 2 ways to multi-task better. Learn how to accomplish your goals with a clear mind!

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    Working Memory

    We do mental work in a space called working memory.

    Working memory uses units called “chunks.”

    Chunks

    A chunk is a piece of information that you deem to be one unit.

    Our working memory has the capacity to hold about 7 chunks (or a few more or less). Actually, the size of our working memory is called:

    The Magical Number Seven, Plus or Minus Two

    So we have 5, 6, 7, 8, or 9 chunks to use at any given time. And that’s it.

    Memorizing Something

    Let’s say you’re trying to memorize an email address that someone just told you. You have your working memory available to hold that information. How will you organize the chunks?

    If the email address is freshphilosopher@gmail.com, you have some options:

    Each letter is a chunk:

    1. F
    2. R
    3. E
    4. S
    5. H
    6. P
    7. H

    Oh! That’s seven. No more room to memorize. Not the best method. What else can you do?

    Use larger units, such as words and symbols:

    • fresh
    • philosopher
    • @
    • gmail
    • .com

    There! The whole email address is memorized with only 5 chunks. That works great!

    You have infinite options. For example:

    • fresh
    • philosopher
    • @gmail.com

    How you chunk information up to you!

    Multi-Tasking with Chunks

    Multi-tasking takes place in working memory. (At least, the mental part does!) That means multi-tasking uses chunks.

    When you do one task, for example task A, you bring up all of the task A chunks into working memory.

    BUT if you’re multi-tasking, you’ll need to drop the chunks for task A and bring up the chunks for task B.

    The problem is, when we’re multi-tasking, we constantly drop chunks and bring up new chunks. Over and over again. We never fully finish using chunks before we drop them.

    This method means we spend a lot of time and mental effort simply moving chunks around, rather than completing work.

    Thus, multi-tasking can be a lot of mental effort with few results.

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    Start Multi-Tasking Right: 2 Methods

    So what to do? Start multi-tasking in a way that matches how your mind naturally works!

    Here are two methods I use and recommend:

    METHOD 1: FULLY TASKING

    Fully tasking is the opposite of multi-tasking. It means bringing up all of the chunks you need, using them at that time, completing your task, then dropping the chunks forever. For example:

    • Read email
    • Decide answer
    • Type answer
    • Hit send

    This has also been popularized as the “Touch It Once” method.

    Read about the Touch It Once method here.

    METHOD 2: MULTI-STACKING

    Multi-stacking means to weave many small tasks together by fully completing a small task from column A before fully completing a small task from column B. Then switching back to A. Like this:

    • Read and answer text 1
    • Water plant 1
    • Read and answer text 2
    • Water plant 2
    • Read and answer text 3
    • Water plant 3
    • Etc.

    Stop Multi-Tasking Wrong

    So there you have it! What multi-tasking is, how it works in the mind, how we often do it wrong, and two ways to do it better!

    For more, check out the YouTube video I made on the topic:

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    What do you think about Multi-Tasking?

    What do you think about my explanation of multi-tasking?

    Would you ever try multi-stacking? I need to know!

    –> Hop over to the comment section on this YouTube video, say hi, and let me know!! I can’t wait to hear from you 🙂

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    Here’s to your success #multi-stacking

    Sincerely,
    Erienne
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  • Raise Your Consciousness

    Raising your consciousness raises the quality of your life experience. It levels you up – right now! Why should you raise your consciousness? To feel more alive. To be more alive! First we’ll see what consciousness is. Then, we’ll talk about 3 ways to raise it! Let’s go!

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    WHAT IS CONSCIOUSNESS?

    Consciousness goes by many names! Here are a few:

    • Awareness
    • Your own personal perspective of reality
    • Awakeness
    • Attention
    • Knowingness
    • Focus
    • Energy state
    • Quality of experience
    • Being in the moment
    • Your real true self
    • The underlying nature of reality

    Consciousness is like the piece of paper that our reality is printed on. Usually, we only care about the words. But without the paper – we wouldn’t – and couldn’t – have any words at all. This is what consciousness is like. It is the underlying nature of our reality.

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    WHY RAISE YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS?

    Why should you raise your consciousness? To feel more alive. To be more alive! Your regular sensory abilities will be extended! Your overall life experience will be deeper and larger. You will be able to:

    • Take in more information
    • Experience more of your environment
    • Experience a higher quality of senses
    • Smell more deeply
    • Taste more deeply
    • See more clearly
    • Hear more
    • Feel more of your body
    • Be calmer
    • Feel a wider range of emotions

    3 WAYS TO RAISE YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS:

    Here are 3 tried-and-true methods for up-leveling your conscious state!

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    1. MINDFULNESS

    A great technique for raising your consciousness is Mindfulness!

    In this exercise, you go about your regular business very attentive to each specific thing you are doing.

    A popular method is to light a candle. Pay attention to the flame. Stay focused on the flame. When your mind wanders (and it will!) gently guide it back to the flame. Do this for 5 minutes. This will seriously up-level your consciousness!

    It doesn’t have to be a flame. Any similar thing – of your choice – will do the trick!

    With mindfulness, you are training your consciousness to do what you say. And that is to stay focused on something.

    Being able to choose where your consciousness goes up-levels you. Why? Because the world is constantly bombarding you with things to distract your attention! This pulls your conscious into many small pieces.

    But focusing your energy on one task intentionally allows you to gather a greater amount of consciousness in one place.

    The result? More life! 🙂

    2. BE IN THE NOW

    Being in the Now will majorly up-level your consciousness.

    Here’s how it works:

    We are constantly living in the future or the past, mentally.

    The Now is what we actually have. And the Now is what we are burning up when we are focusing on these other places.

    Right Now is always here. And it is a very powerful place.

    Let’s try it now. Fully enter your life. BE IN THE NOW. Right now. Go!

    ~ You are in the now ~

    Well done. If you are ever missing a part of yourself, look for it in the Now.

    3. MEDITATION

    Mediation is the third tactic for expanding your consciousness. And it is amazing.

    I like to say – Meditation allows you to calm the water bowl of your mind. Here’s the analogy:

    Usually, the waves of our mind are fast and high. In this case, not much can stay in the water bowl. But if we slow down, the waves are lower, and we can fit more into the water bowl (without water splashing out).

    Meditation helps you to calm things down. When things are calmer you can have more water in the bowl. And by water, I mean… consciousness! 🙂

    To get started, I made you a 1-minute meditation.

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    DISCOVER WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!

    I hope these ideas inspire you! But the real inspiration comes from within.

    So I encourage you to go figure out what consciousness-manipulation methods work FOR YOU. That’s right. I’m giving you permission to purposefully move your consciousness!

    I promise some things will come easily + naturally to you. Here are some suggestions:

    • Move your consciousness down over your body
    • Go into nature and expand it out from your body
    • Become conscious of your internal world
    • Go to a beautiful place and become hyper-conscious of it
    • Attend to your emotional world
    • Become conscious of the everyday physical world around you
    • Try a guided meditation

    I am so excited for you!

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    WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT RAISING YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS?

    I am super curious – what do you think? Would you try these techniques? Do you already do these things to raise your consciousness?

    Hop over to this video on YouTube, leave a comment, and let me know! I can’t wait to hear from you 🙂

    Sincerely,
    Erienne
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  • Feel Beautiful with Love Energy

    “I’ll love myself when I’m beautiful.”
    How many times have I thought that?
    So many. Too many. Countless.
    Self love? Sure, I tried it. And I failed catastrophically.
    “Maybe this works for other people,” I’d think. “Other people who are loveable. Other people who have body love . But not me.”
    This is how I felt. For so long.

    “I’ll love myself when I’m beautiful.”

    I used to look at myself in the mirror and think, “When will I love my body?”

    I noticed that I only loved my body when I pushed it, hounded it, pounded it, polished it, and squeezed it into a desirable form.

    In my mind’s eye, my body was wrong. So I simply couldn’t love it.

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    NOT LETTING LOVE IN

    Now don’t get me wrong. There were times where I did love my body. And those were times when I thought I looked great!

    But even during the good times – times of body acceptance – I still felt separated from it. I never felt like the beautiful person in the mirror was ME.

    I would actually SAY – “I can’t believe it.”

    I couldn’t believe it was me.

    Then, when beauty disappeared, I felt awful about myself. I thought – “Oh, this who I really am.”

    I would actually SAY – “I can’t believe it.”

    The truth is, I didn’t accept myself as beautiful. The woman in the mirror always felt like someone else. Someone I’d never be. Even though I was physically her at that very moment!

    This is when I realized something was deeply wrong.

    SOMETHING WRONG ON THE INSIDE

    I realized something was wrong with me. But not on the OUTSIDE; on the INSIDE.

    Actually, there was nothing wrong with my body. There was something wrong with my psyche.

    I realized that I didn’t own my beauty. I didn’t feel my beauty. I didn’t believe it was a trait attached to me.

    I didn’t own my beauty. I didn’t feel my beauty.

    And yet, regardless of what I believed, I knew deep down that beauty was there still. Just under the surface of my belief.

    The problem was, beauty was disconnected from my self image.

    EXPERIMENTING

    I decided to do something about it. I started experimenting.

    My thinking went like this: If my perception of beauty was internally motivated, I should be able to play with it.

    So I started playing dress up with my psyche. I started playing make-believe with my self-image.

    First, I made my internal image into a queen. I imagined what my queenly dress would look like, and how I’d walk around my castle. (I may have watched a lot of Reign.)

    Next, I imagined myself as a goddess. I dreamed up my flowing cloak of magic, my house on the moon. You know. As one does.

    I even started a Pinterest board of my fantasy self icons.

    Mostly, I got really inspired by the Jessie J song Queen.

    It is pretty fantastic. You should probably listen to it right now.

    I love my body. I love my skin. I am a goddess. I am a queen.

    Jessie J

    SENDING LOVE INTO YOUR BODY

    What I noticed about all of these methods was this: They helped me love my body more.

    So I broke it down. I started experimenting with love.

    Specifically, I started sendng love into my body.

    Using my imagination, I sent love deep down: into the core of my being.

    I also sent love all over – into my toes. Into my fingers. Into my lips. And my hips. You get the idea.

    I sent love into the air around my body. And into my hair.

    I sent love into the parts of me that I hated the most. I sent love into parts of me that I ignored.

    I sent love deep down: into the core of my being.

    I didn’t do this all on one day, but a little bit at a time. Before I looked in the mirror. When I was meditating. When I was waiting in line.

    Sending love to myself was hard at first. It felt like doing nothing. Truly. But I got better at it. And soon it began to feel more and more real. Until it became just another part of my everyday self.

    I think it works like a muscle. An emotional muscle. Except instead of controlling your body, this one controls your emotional energy. The more you work it, the better you get.

    BODY LOVE FEELS GOOD

    The key of sending love into my body opened a new world for me.

    Now, I feel love.

    I feel love for myself.

    I feel love for myself no matter what.

    I feel love before I look in the mirror. I feel love after I look in the mirror. No matter what creature I see, I always feel love for her.

    And if that love feeling starts to fade, I have the tool to bring it back. I have the capacity to boost my positive feelings about my body again.

    BODY LOVE MAKES YOU MORE BEAUTIFUL

    As I was playing around with this love energy, I began to feel fantastic. But something else happened. Something… weird.

    I was not simply loving myself and feeling more beautiful.

    Loving my body actually made me, physically, more beautiful.

    I began to glow. To truly feel good. To radiate a certain kind of energy. I think they call it confidence.

    I started carrying my body differently. More openly. I felt a greater ownership of my physical being. Loving my body actually increased my physical vitality.

    I began executing my personal hygiene routines more gently. I started brushing my hair tips-up, patting my skin dry, and giving myself little hand massages when I washed my hands.

    My new feelings about my body actually changed how it treated it. I began to treat myself well. I began to prioritize feeling good, rather than simply avoiding feeling bad.

    FINALLY FEELING BEAUTIFUL ON THE INSIDE

    Not only that, but the glass wall of self-denial came down.

    I finally accepted my beauty!

    No longer was the invisible wall there, preventing me from identifying with the beautiful person I was.

    I finally felt connected to my beauty.

    When I looked in the mirror, I began to immediately notice my naturally wavy hair. I saw how happy my eyes looked! But I forgot to notice the imperfections around my eyes. That used to be all I saw.

    I finally accepted my beauty

    Now I felt the amazing energy of being a beautiful creature.

    Wow this was different! I really hacked something. I broke through.

    I was no longer someone who relied on the mirror to feel beautiful. Now I was someone who felt beautiful just for existing.

    For the first time in my life, I felt genuinely wonderfully about my physical being. The love I couldn’t accept before was inside me. I had snuck it in.

    TROJAN – HORSE YOUR SELF LOVE

    I like to think I trojan-horsed my self love.

    All along, I had been attacking my outer image, trying to make it beautiful. But that outer sense of beauty never made it past the guards.

    Instead, I snuck my love energy in. I put it in a message, snuck it past the gates, and dropped that message in the center of town. When that message was opened, love flowed everywhere. Love got in.

    My inner sense of beauty blossomed.

    So here’s how to do it.

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    HOW TO INCREASE BODY LOVE:

    • Send love into your body
    • Accept love into your body
    • Feel love in your body & hold it there
    • Speak lovingly to your body
    • Have a positive conversation with yourself about your body
    • Touch your body lovingly
    • Do your regular hygiene lovingly
    • Ask your body to accept love
    • Take on the role of your body and say, “I accept this love”
    • Tell yourself “I love you”

    Look at yourself with your heart. Not your eyes. Feel with your heart. Send love to yourself. Accept love inside yourself.

    Send love to yourself

    It will be weird. It may be hard. But it is worth it.

    Work past every single boundary and barrier that comes up until you can feel love on command. It is worth it. It is freaking awesome.

    One great way to get started is a self-love meditation.

    HOW DOES THIS “BODY LOVE” WORK?

    If you are typically frustrated with your body, it means you’re sending it negative energy. You’re blocking yourself. To unblock yourself – you need to do something different.

    Send your body positive energy. It is radical.

    Instead of looking in the mirror, hoping for something to love, you love your body first. Then look in the mirror. If you want to.

    It works like wearing lenses or glasses. You see things differently with a different filter. And you value things differently.

    Love your body first. Then look in the mirror.

    When you do this, you are letting love energy flow into your body. It actually does real work. It creates real change in your body.

    Love energy can heal you. Love energy can empower you. It can also relax you, center you, and clear you.

    What you’re really doing, at a deep level, is aligning your body’s energy with a positive, loving frequency. And this loving frequency will build you a different body as your cells naturally repair. This new body is healthier, more vibrant, and even more beautiful.

    Isn’t that worth trying? Isn’t that worth fighting for?

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    DO IT TO FREE YOUR SOUL

    This is what I was wanting all along!

    Now if I look in the mirror, instead of looking for something to love, I’m looking at something I do love.

    Perhaps this is what you’ve been wanting too? To finally accept yourself. To finally love yourself. To simply be enough.

    So I encourage you to try it. Go for it! Send yourself love. Do it in every way that speaks to you.

    Do it for your body. Do it for yourself. Do it to free your soul.

    My dear – you are enough. You are beautiful right now. And you deserve to know it. You deserve to feel it. You deserve to heal your body with the frequency of love.

    Write yourself a love note and go place it in your heart. Then read it again and again.

    Send love energy into yourself. Give yourself time. Keep sending the love. Keep accepting the love. And I promise you will bloom.

    I believe in you.

    Love,

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  • Adopt a Vegan Mindset

    An unexpected benefit of going plant-based is a vegan mindset. Going vegan takes a lot of mental focus. This focus and choice create a lot mental positives. I describe five benefits in this video!

    Vegan Mindset Benefits

    Here are 5 mental positives that develop naturally as you change your life and shift to a vegan mindset:

    1. Mental strength. Choosing to eat differently from society takes guts! By following your own gut, against the current, you become mentally tougher. You become mentally strong.
    2. A deeper connection to your body. Eating plant-based really brings your cravings, hunger, satisfaction, and thirst into sharper focus. You’ll understand better what you body needs. You’ll gain skill in satisfying its signals. This will lead you to feel much more connected to your own body, which feels fantastic.
    3. Glow. Glowing from the inside-out includes feeling good about yourself in your own mind. When you’re taking excellent care of yourself, for yourself, it brings your self-love to the front of your mind. And it shows!
    4. Self-empowerment. Once you get the hang of living plant-based, you will have seriously leveled up, my friend! You will have powered yourself in a whole new way. And that self-empowerment will extend to every area of your life!
    5. And one more… 😉

    Enjoy the video!

    Above all, remember, the world has so many reasons that you should go vegan. But you know what? Forget all of that. That’s right. Forget it! Don’t do it for them. Do it for you.

    Have you Tried a Vegan Mindset?

    Have you ever tried a vegan mindset? I would love to know!

    Hop over to this video on YouTube + leave me a comment. I can’t wait to hear about your journey! ↓

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    Love and plants,

    Erienne
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  • Face Your Dreams

    Let me ask you a question: Do you follow your dreams?

    How would it feel if you did?

    What would your dream life look like?

    I’m not talking about a life of vacation. Instead, I’m talking about a life where you follow your dreams! You know, doing what lights you up inside – that’s what I mean! How would it feel?

    What if everything you did – from the time you woke up – to the time you went to asleep – felt in alignment with who you really are?

    I’d like to add a little hope and sparkle to your day. I’m inviting you to follow your DREAMS! Do it even if they don’t seem possible right now. Still…

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    Think about your dream life!

    Why?

    Why on earth should you listen to your dreams? Follow your dreams? Live your dream life?

    Well… here’s the answer!

    What are your dreams?

    If you don’t know, find out.

    Here are great ways to interact with your dream ideas:

    • Write them down
    • Take a walk and think about your dreams
    • Share them with a friend over coffee
    • Post a comment on this video and I’ll seeeee you
    • You can even share them with me. 🙂

    I believe in you.

    And I believe that you deserve to follow your dreams.

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  • Live Outside Time

    The Time Illusion –

    Let’s talk about daylight savings time. This is the moment we collectively “choose” to treat time differently.

    But do you believe it?

    For me, daylight savings time takes a while to get used to.

    Why?

    I Don’t FEEL Different

    Because I don’t FEEL different. I don’t feel like it is one hour earlier. I feel the same.

    Yet simultaneously – I KNOW that I should feel different. I know that I should accept the new time.

    See.. the thing is… I don’t BELIEVE that time changes. Instead, I believe that I change. I think that daylight savings time happens because I choose to start treating time differently. And so does everybody else.

    In these moments, I realize something. I realize that “time” is just my experience of it. I remember that time is an agreement made between humans to get things done. And I’m accepting that agreement.

    But do I have to?

    Image of woman breaking the chains of the time illusionWhat is Time?

    Just what is time? Is time real? Is time an illusion?

    Even if it is an illusion, so what? What good does it do to crack the illusion of time?

    Well, I have a secret to share with you.

    Time Isn’t Real

    Time isn’t real.

    You are.

    You choose to live inside of time. And you can choose to step out of it!

    In this video, I show you how I break time.

    I explain what time is, share the benefits of living outside of time, and reveal my time-breaking tips and tricks!

    Enjoy

    Thanks for watching!

    So what do YOU think?

    Do you think time is an illusion? Will you try any of these techniques?

    Feel free to post a comment on this video and share your time traveling secrets with me. I’d love to hear how you live. 🙂

    ? Much love,

    Erienne

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  • Be Authentic

    We all know when somebody around us is being fake. Why can’t they just be real? It usually drives me CRAZY. What about you? Society dictates I should respond to their external personality, even though I KNOW that isn’t the whole story. Blurg 🙂
    On the other hand, we can also tell when someone is “being real.” It means they are being their true self around others. Telling their truth, like it is – and holding nothing back. Sometimes it can be a bit much to handle – like they’re shining too brightly compared to everyone else’s current state.
    I think of “being real” and “being fake” as two polar opposites on a spectrum. At any given time, each one of us falls somewhere on the scale.
    But is it always the RIGHT TIME to be 100% real? Probably not. For example, it may not always be appropriate, or kind, or relevant. Hard as it is for me to admit, putting on a fake persona may be the right way to go (sometimes).
    Or is it?

    Learning to Be Real: A Little Story

    Recently I spoke on a panel. I was very excited and wanted to do my best.During the event, a touchy subject came up – people reporting mental health struggles. I could JUST TELL that the person running the panel wanted us to skip the topic. Because it wasn’t pleasant, and therefore not appropriate. At that moment, I was faced with a choice: Move along or plunge into a sticky subject.KNOWING ME, CAN YOU GUESS WHAT I DID?I took the plunge.I said aloud that YES that is an actual real issue. Not only is it real, but there were real resources on how to deal with it, and I shared those resources with the audience.As soon as I stopped talking, all of my doubt and guilty feelings started to roll in. I started wondering whether that was the right thing to do. Should I have kept my mouth shut? Did I do the wrong thing? Was the whole world going to explode now? At the end of the panel, I found out.Afterward, I chatted with a few people who said “thank you for speaking!” They had learned a lot from me. That felt great to me. And you know what? ABSOLUTELY NO ONE SAID I WAS OUT OF LINE. Or that I had brought up an inappropriate topic. Not even the panel coordinator. In fact, it seemed a completely natural part of the discussion.Sooo… something I thought might lead to planetary explosion had no negative impact at all? Yep. That’s right. In fact, the judgment I felt from the panel coordinator was probably all in my head…. whoa.

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    People resonate with the real you

    Nobody is convinced that everything is perfect. When you are real, and talk about real life as you see it, people resonate with that.I’m not talking about the standard exchange we all know so well: “How are you?” “Fine and you?” “Good!” exchange you have with your grocery clerk. (Would things really be so weird if you said, “I’m craving sweet potatoes tonight, isn’t that funny?” Hmm.. I wonder what they would say back? Why don’t you try it and see how it goes?)But even more, I’m talking about the deeper interactions we have with those around us. My speaking experience really opened my eyes to how positively people respond to honesty. Kind honesty about your own personal experience. And that is pretty powerful. 🙂

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    The right time to be real is…

    All of the time! Around your bffs, at the grocery store, in front of a panel, and in your pajamas. All good, legit times to be real.Give it a try! “Being real” might help you remove the burden of portraying a perfectly fake version of yourself, which is a big burden indeed. And it also creates an example for others of how awesome it is to be yourself. You never know who else is watching, struggling with whether they should be real too.

    Sincerely, Erienne Dr. Erienne WeineFresh Philosopher signature


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